ProfuseRealist

“Why are you single?” “You've been dating for so long, clearly he isn't serious.” “When will you get married?” “You're getting old, you should get married before your biological clock times out.” We have all been involved in these kinds of conversations at some point. There is this timeline for our lives set up by others, with all their expectations of how we   should live our  lives. It seems that a beautiful person is assumed to have to have a romantic partner. They don't ask about your plan for your life, they want to know what is wrong with you that you're single. They aren't interested in your self-love or your career-development . There is a 'dating clock'. After a few years it is expected that marriage happens. Regardless of the couple's own private reasons and goals before marriage, people try to tell them that it's time . The right time to enter into a relationship is when you are able to love yourself. When you understand yourself, yo...

People often ask what your favourite type of music is, and many of us can answer with a specific genre or artist. I can’t. And I know of others who can’t as well. But why? Isn’t it simple to pick? It’s not life or death. Music can’t possibly have such a big influence that someone needs to choose. It’s “not that deep”. Or is it? Well, maybe you should think about the music you like. There are different songs for different days. What do you listen to when you’re in need of a boost? What about when you’re in a place filled with sadness and want something to relate to? So then, is music really not that influential? When we listen to music, we allow the words to sink into our minds. Yes, there is the beat which has become more important than it used to be. Lyrics aren’t what makes a song anymore. We have artists saying words which are sometimes nonsensical. But those words enter our subconscious and can provoke certain thoughts. You aren't just singing the words, there is something deep...

https://www.counselingintegrity.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/get-in-touch-with-emotions.png  We have all heard that our emotions are getting in the way of some or other thing. Sometimes it's related to a decision we need to make, other times it's how we respond to something that happened. And women? Well, we're assumed to be unable to control our emotions. But why do we experience these things called emotions? Emotions may be brought about by things others say or do, our level of fatigue, health, trauma, memories, music, hormones, among others. Also, we are human. We get triggered more often when there are underlying issues. Yes, someone being in your space may be rather upsetting, but what if it suddenly only bothers you today? Would you know why? What about positive emotions? Like the way your boss is lenient after passing a big audit. People often think that sleep will alleviate the constant lashing out. And a good sleep routine can very well help with this. So can hyd...